How should I word my initial contact message?

Dear Anthony,

I am a new female member of Ave Maria Singles. If I am interested in initiating contact with a member, how should I word the first message? Can you give me an example?

For a woman making first contact, this should be done in a way that simply points out something of interest or that you noticed on the man's profile. For example, you might have been impressed with what he wrote about his devotion to the Blessed Mother. Just write a little something about what you noticed and impressed you. Here is a full example:

Dear [Name],

I wanted to contact you to tell you how impressed I was with what you wrote about your devotion to the Blessed Mother. It was really beautiful. I also have a strong devotion to her and can't imagine not being close to her. You are obviously close to her. I pray that she will always remain close to you.

God bless you,
[Your name]

The above note is enough to get a man's attention without sounding like you are "pursuing". If he is not interested or does not know what to do with a note like that, you will not hear from him and you just leave it at that. Do this kind of thing with any man you are interested in. Men need that little bit of leading and effort by women to show them they are welcome. A man who is interested will know what to do next, and he will take over the leading role from that point forward.