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Dr. John Fraunces: Unrealistic Expectations

Posted At : April 8, 2010 1:30 PM | Posted By : Anthony Buono
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I interview Dr. John Fraunces about the frustrations that can result from setting up unrealistic ideals. For more formation resources for single Catholics, visit RoadToCana.com.



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Claudia Satori's Gravatar Anthony - I find Dr. Fraunces interview offensive in its generality and painting ALL Catholics with the same brush. Furthermore being Catholic is SERIOUS, as we are attacked everyday in the media, in person, by Jay Leno. That is my 2 cents - probably just for you personally, edit as you wish.
# Posted By Claudia Satori | 4/8/10 2:02 PM
Patricia's Gravatar Interesting that there were 528 views for this video but NO comments!
One of the unrealistic expectations I have come across is the idea that the other person is responsible for a person's happiness and success in marriage.

That is, the idea that marrying THE perfect Catholic (i.e. one who dresses modestly according to another's definition, goes to Church very frequently, says 14 different devotions, reads the Bible, is beautiful/handsome, has a great job, etc. etc.) will make the marriage perfect and happy.
This unrealistic expectation means many many Catholics, particularly on AMS will never find a spouse.
They are too particular and too centered on what the other person NEEDS to offer rather than what they themselves have to give.
If you have this view, IMO, you are not ready to be married.
# Posted By Patricia | 4/19/10 10:08 AM
Andrea's Gravatar Very good insight and very true. This would be a great topic for a discernment retreat. I'm just now discovering that this is the ailment I suffer from...it may be too late for me, but if the younger generation could discover and honestly examine themselves in this way, maybe they WILL enter their true vocation. This attitude I think can show up whether one is looking for a religious order or a spouse...there is a temptation to look for perfection and set up unrealistic expectations. There will be bumps in any vocation...there is no perfection this side of heaven...Thank you Anthony for posting this.
# Posted By Andrea | 4/29/10 11:42 AM
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